As the old joke goes, what is it that a lesbian will take with her on a second date? Answer: A U-Haul. There is a common perception that lesbians do not go on dates, they just move forward from one association to a new one. While there exists a little truth to every stereotype, do not be frightened that just because you told everyone that you are a lesbian you are going to get a different roommate the following week.
How can I meet another lesbian?
As a sticker on a car bumper often says, “We’re everywhere!” But lesbians are inclined to gather together in definite locations.
Gay and Lesbian bars: If you are more than 21, this would be one of the most understandable places to try to meet with somebody. Some of the women may find partners in the bars, other might find the atmosphere to be annoying and superficial and they might find it hard to get to know somebody closely. And there is always the alcohol factor which can affect your decision. I suggest that you go to a bar with some friends and check out the scene to see if you find it comfortable enough or not. A bar is a good place for dating lesbians.
What is the proper way to approach somebody?
If you are in a party or a club and you find someone attractive, give her a little glance and see if she notices you and makes some contact with her eyes. If she does make some eye contact, then move towards her. Have a proper introduction. Please do not use an unoriginal pickup line. Ask her if she likes to dance or have a game of pool. Invite her for a drink. Tell her that you are single and ask if she is too. Then get a phone number.
How about advertisements?
In dating lesbians, personal advertisements can be a great way to meet up with other women. You can be open and very clear about what you are searching for and both parties know that it is going to be a date. An ad can be placed in a local paper or over the internet. Check the sites such as lesbian.com, yahoo personals or technodyke.com. Look for the starters. Check for someone from your area who has also placed an ad or place your own ad there. Look at other people’s ads just to get an idea as to what kind of stuff to write in your own ad. Try evading clichés, e.g. “I like walking in the rain.” Try using something original and unique, something that is humorous and funny. You will probably get a very good response.
What information do I require about AIDS and about safe sex?
That is a very good question! While dating lesbians, they are more at a risk for HIV and AIDS. You should check out different resources for more information. It’s always a healthy practice to discuss with your mate all the risks that are involved before the relationship becomes sexual.
